From Odusina Adewale Hiworks
You work relationship to work for you and reading from right to left ,pidgin-like, (you for work) to (relationship work you) meaning work so that relationship can benefit you mutually , either way it make sense.
There are four major circles of families that we are part of.
1. We have the blood lines, immediate and extended.
2. We have the school base family cutting across all educational journeys.
3. We have the workplace family, also local, where we work and extended to people we work for.
4. We have our religion rooted family.
When we deploy the family philosophy into all our engagement with people, we become larger than life; we get more than we would have demanded from our circles of engagements.
There are particular decorum for the various circles.
However, a lot of people do not understand how the family philosophy work and are ignorantly disappointed when certain expectations from people are not realised.
They fail to understand that relationship work only when we take responsibility to work it and it is not a child's play.
The family philosophy is synonymous with the operations of the body and every part SIGNIFICANT AND 'LESS SIGNIFICANT' contribute ESSENTIALLY into the well being of the body. When any part suffers, the entire body is unstable.
You are in DISCONNECT MODE, when you don't contribute ESSENTIALLY into the pool.
For you to demand from your bloodline family, you must service it responsibly; maintain cleanliness, cook, do laundry especially for your parents and those that are living in, working and bringing in funds to run the Upkeep. As long as you are not yet engaged, you may be a graduate and even older than those bringing the funds as yet, RESPONSIBILITY is on you to serve them. It is only noble and you will command more respect. When this attitude colours your life everyone will rally round you when you need financial support to further your education or need cash for transport to attend interviews or any other need that may arise.
Also as nuclear family open up to other Younger nuclear or children move out to take responsibility for their own lifes, everyone must engage with one another and with the centre - the parents to maintain bonding; phone calls, sms, birthday greetings,anniversary greetings, family reunion etc.
When we get married and start a new family, we must develop a balance between the sentiments of the old (siblings and parents) and the new family.
When it concerns husband and wife,it takes two for the home to become battle field. If one part stay through to the vow, hope stays alive for home functionality. Parenting is huge responsibility as well as sustaining the matrimony.
The man or the woman must stay essential in the matrimony. If one suddenly stop working or become jobless, it does not mean turning on a USELESS MODE but HOME ESSENTIAL MODE; WHEN you become more available, SPEND BODY WHEN YOU CAN'T SPEND MONEY; maintain cleanliness, do the laundry,cook, bathe the kids,take the kids to school, help with home work, celebrate your spouse innovatively. Also go out to volunteer your skill set while you wait for another employment.
That is how the family stay functional.
Irresponsibility only breeds Dysfunctionality and Disconnectivity.
At school, connect actively with religious group and association that will aid your focus on the primary assignment - Studying and also help Wade off cultists and all other non productive groups,friendships and habits. Be actively engaged in all school activities to help develop a rounded personality.
Be very generous in knowledge acquisition and sharing and be a resource person for your lecturer and fellow students. This will continue to open unusual doors of opportunities to you a lifetime.
In the work environment,we can turn on the family mode within and without.
When the employer and the employee operate with ownership motivation, they passionately care both for the job and the well being of the workforce.
As an employee, you are getting the best deal as you engage with customers and vendors. You are aiding client retainership and profitability with ownership attitude. When you are not money motivated but value motivated, YOUR lifestyle is coloured with ownership attitude and you become open to family benefits within and without.
Employers must be seen to care like a family would. An appreciable part of employees life time is spent at work and much more time than with any of the other circles of relationships. This should count for much more than just remuneration.
The moment one sign on to be an employers, such just extended their immediate family circle and especially to those that have displayed ownership motivation. They are the company's lifelines and must be treated better than the MDs vehicle and dogs.
If the MD can spend 7million to acquire a vehicle and maintain yearly with 1.5million, such must be ready to spend more on such resourceful employees.
When there are tenancy loan request of resourceful staff, the MDs special car request for maintance and the Mds Holiday trip allowance request, in what order of importance will they be treated especially when there is challenging cash flow??? SELAH!!!
A lot of organization will not survive through a silver jubilee because of the disconnect between employers and their respective employees summarize as poor staff retainership.
In the context of this material, I will refer to Christianity as a religion but religion is a practice under Christianity maybe 10% of our responsibilities.
Christianity is a way of life for the ones that have embraced the Grace and The Help of God for Man's Reconciliation.
If all a man does is religion, it is like meeting 10% of God's expectation and that is even if one is able to do that to 100% perfection. However, shockingly, most people will fail woefully as anything short of 100% is rounded up to 0%.
We can never satisfy God's demand when we approach on religious grounds.
The Bible says God sent Jesus in the form of the First Adam, not as the seed of a sinful man and woman, to pay the Altimate price of death for the entire human race, dead, alive and until the end of time endless past to endless future.
When we live not accepting Christ, we remain rooted and adapted to the nature of the Adam that sinned and we can't please God.
However, when we accept the Grace and the Help of God through Jesus Christ Death and Resurrection, we undergo dismemberment from that Adamic root and are grafted into the New Adam named Jesus Christ Spiritually rooted in righteousness and true holiness.
We have a Choice, critical Choice to make between two trees.
Literally, a Christian has become a member of a global family and the bond is beyond the blood lines and work lines and all other lines. However, these positioning make us more resourceful in all the old secular lines. The fact is that we go in our DISCONNECT when we don't go beyond our call of duty in all the other family circles.
Jesus Christ said he gives very special attention to those members of the Tree that are resourceful in all the sense of it.
I have seen and gotten involved with people that move from churches to churches just to get aids and afterwards disappear to another. Such are not willing to get involved but wants the church to rise up to aid them in trouble.
In summary, We must earn our family rights by responsibility and essentially and afterwards enjoy the benefits that are leveraged from such circles.
